An RCS Review: ‘Men and Manners’

I grew up in a home where manners were considered top priority for my brother and me.  We lived in a ‘yes sir/yes ma’am’ household, with an expectation of going above and beyond in terms of showing respect for those around us (particularly women, especially mom).  Over the years, these lessons have served both my brother and I well.

Manners are the social denominator that separate men from gentlemen. By no means am I an expert, and I too could use a primer.  Given the popularity of David Coggins’ new book ‘Men and Manners’, I’m not the only one…

I don’t believe that manners and good behavior have been lost.  They are still around, and practiced by the most successful people you know.  David Coggins’ ‘Men and Manners’ is a welcomed refresher on how to be genteel in today’s oft rude society.  The book isn’t intimidating at all – instead it parallels real life situations with this author’s perspective.  Coggins is a student of manners and culture, and the pages of his book are filed with his knowledge and experiences.  What’s even better?  He gives specifics as examples: on tipping, thank you notes, host/hostess gifts, and appropriate footwear.  Thank you.

The book is very digestible.  I read the whole thing in 4.5 hours while on vacation on Harbour Island.  Those of you familiar with ‘Men and Style’ already know Coggins’ tone, which is very knowledgable, appealing, and unaggressive.  He’s the type of guy you want to meet for a long lunch, or drinks.  He’ll give you the history of tweed, or tell you his knot preference for dry flies.  And he’ll have the best jacket in the room.  Coggins is exactly the type of person you want refreshing you on conducting good social behavior.

I highly recommend ‘Men and Manners’ for any guy, as it’s not a rinse and repeat reader, rather a book that can be kept in close proximity and referenced as needed.  Think about manners conversations with a recent high school graduate?  With a traveling companion?  With your son?  All pertinent information that will set you apart in social settings.  And remember: those that need to notice, will.