I’ve been looking forward to digging in to K. Cooper Ray’s ‘Bill of Rites for the American Man’, and a recent cross-country flight afforded me the opportunity to go cover to cover in one sitting. He sent me a signed copy, of which I was very grateful. What a pleasurable, smart, and charming read.
Having been exposed to all sorts of ‘manner-based’ situations growing up, it was a great refresher. I remember cotillion classes from middle school (essentially a bunch of boys uncomfortable wearing a coat and tie looking up at the girls in our class that had shot up before we had the chance…), numerous Debutant balls (sneaking liquor around the finest establishments), fund raisers (learning to navigate around the ‘upper crust’), and groomsman responsibilities (ensuring that this was the happiest day for the beautiful couple), all of which have a set of rules.
Mr. Ray (of socialprimer.com fame) does a great job outlining ten of the most appropriate male behavior bookends in his book. I would recommend this to any guy – especially those that would dare to call themselves a ‘gentleman’. In addition – I believe this should be required reading for every fraternity pledge class. If you are going to hold yourself to a higher standard by wearing those letters on your chest, you better know the rules. In the same vein – there should be a copy in every Sorority house for reference. Ladies – this is what you should expect from a potential suitor.
Don’t ever settle.